I noticed recently it has been a while since I posted on my website. I also noticed that it has been some time since I made any entries in my diary! This is unusal fo me as I developed a habit of adding my experiences and thoughts…..the only thing I can think is I have been way too busy or happy!! 🙂
I have been saying for a while that I am writing a book….called…’How to woo a woman’! 🙂 I will write this as I think there is a definate need for men to learn the skill! The gentleman ways seem to have become obsolete!
My father has always been a great example of how to treat a woman, other people and good manners. My mother was always the lady and still is…..
Since I have been single I have experienced quite a range of personalities and behavours……interesting to say the least. Since I study Holistic Counselling Mind and Body Medicine I find them intriguing.
What I have also found interesting is what I have learnt about myself along the way through these intereactions. I must say I really do feel blessed to still be dating! I seem to have endless energy and such a desire to meet people and experience single life.
I have learnt recently though that I am now ready and content to enjoy and share my life with a wonderful person who hopefully gets me and I get him. Someone who shares my appreciation of the simple things in life and love for all that is and have a positive view on life.
I have read so many books over the years about learning to appreciate and love oneself without the need and desire of another person to fill your life or be the cause of your happiness. What I have learnt is that yes we can live a solitude life and enjoy others without having them by your side….however….we are human at the end of the day…and we were created in such a way in a denser environment where we prefer to share our lives with another by our side. I feel the wisdom in it all is to be exactly that….by each others side without the need for attachment and control.
This is, to me, truly freedom……to be with someone without owning them…..allowing each other to live, think and feel what ever it is they desire and knowing that they love you still and trusting that….trusting them.
It allows for the spice of life……………I dont want to be imprisoned in any space of thought or reality…..nor do I wish to imprison another in this way….true freedom for me is to love unconditionally without expectations, without need. Love is a gift and only when we love uncondtionally are we all free……….
Saying this now I can see how I have not done this in the past. Even with guys I have dated and ones I have only met for moments…….they didnt meet my expectations of what I perceived thay had to do, say or behave for me to feel wanted, appreciated or respected. This was my ego reacting to past beliefs, emotions and patterns…………….
Having said this there needs to be a healthy balance of knowing who is in alignment with you, your desires and your lifestyle. It is ok to say no to someone who you feel you do not resonate with. There is a lesson in every connection no matter how limited. The trick is seeing it and learning from it.
I still have so much to learn, to let go and to allow. Still learning trust 🙂